“Don’t blink, this time will fly by.” “They grow up so fast.” “Enjoy every moment.” Is it just me, or do new parents hear these phrases at least once a week? The truth is, when you’re in the middle of ear infections, poopy diapers, colic, your baby tumbling down from the sitting position for the eleventeenth time, sometimes those phrases fall on deaf ears. Sometimes, as I paced the floor, rocking Olivia, shushing her, singing to her, bouncing her, begging her to fall asleep, I would wish for the future. For days when she would lay her head on her pillow in her big girl bed, fresh faced from her bath, holding her beloved lovey of the moment, snuggle in for a hug after a bedtime story and BAM, be out like a light. I’m pretty sure there are a myriad of problems with this vision, but let me start with the one that jumps up and punches me in the gut. Wishing away my baby’s life? What the what?!
I’m pretty sure it’s not just me who has struggled out of sleep in the middle of the night to nurse a baby and wondered when I’ll have a full nights rest again. I’m sure it’s not just me who wonders when on earth this little one will be able to play independently for, oh, say five minutes, so I can throw together a dinner more complicated than frozen pizza. And I’m sure it’s not just me who becomes wracked with guilt after such thoughts. So I hope this can be an encouragement. Yes, time DOES fly by. Before we know it, we’ll be sitting at a high school graduation, watching our “baby” accept their diploma, while the tears that fall from our eyes reflect memories of their tiny snuggles, their first giggle, those sweet moments in the middle of the night while we nursed them back to sleep. OK, maybe high school graduation is a bit extreme, but I can tell you from very recent experience, that I simply can’t believe my 14 month old girl is now sleeping in her crib ALL.NIGHT.LONG. (Nevermind the fact that she still wakes up in the middle of the night and I still get up to rock her, the point is she is weaned and our bed now only contains two people instead of three.) Sure, I came to a point where I was not just complacent about rocking her, nursing her, getting up with her, multiple times at night, I was content to do so. I was cherishing those moments. Nevertheless, there were plenty of moments of despair in my sleep deprived state, or in the back of my mind when my to-do list seemed to pour out of my head and wrap itself around the nursery, darkening the soft glow of the pink nightlight and stealing away my happy cuddles. And yet, here we are, only 14 months in, and that transition has happened. Looking back, it seems like it was so FAST. Already my memories of exhaustion and despair are buried by the grief of passing through a stage that will never happen again. Isn’t if funny how our minds do that? Like, there are women out there who have babies with NO PAIN MEDS and then DO IT AGAIN! Um, hello crazy minds and your sneaky ways.
I’ve said before that sometimes I feel like my reflections on motherhood are all about the hard parts. I don’t want it to seem like it’s been one challenge after another, with none of the amazing, blissful, exciting, precious times, too. That is not the case whatsoever! Sometimes it seems like the hard parts are those less talked about, though. And there is a longing in this mama’s soul to reach out to other mama’s and tell them that no matter how often or rare the hard parts are, you are not alone! Whether your child slept through the night from a few weeks old, or whether you are still nursing your big toddler at 2 AM. Whether you have an “easy baby” from the start or had to go through colic or are in the middle of terrible twos or teenage angst. Whether your twelve year old wants to spend every waking moment with you because she loves you so much or you’re sitting up at midnight waiting for your past-curfew son to walk through the door. You are not alone.
We all know there are good times. We can recite all the precious things about our children and the reasons we love being mothers. The moments that feel like glimpses of heaven. Those things are written on our hearts. The good outweighs the difficult by elephants and rhinos! But when the challenges are casting shadows in your nursery or over your dinner table, take heart. Give your baby an extra squeeze. Take a deep breath with your nose right in her neck and soak up her baby smell. Sit next to your teenage son on the couch while you watch yet another action movie and memorize his long lashes, his square jaw. And know, this too shall pass, and when it does, you will both be stronger, wiser, and more entwined in each other’s hearts.
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Friday, February 22, 2013
Last weekend Livi and I went on a fun Mama/Daughter trip to Fort Collins! I admit I was a bit nervous about the drive and staying in a hotel, but in the end everything worked out so wonderfully and I'm really glad we went! Livi did GREAT in the car and we had a blast pretty much the whole time. I tried to remind myself not to get worked up over her schedule (or lack thereof) and just go with the flow when needed. It proved to work well because when she decided not to take her morning nap on Saturday morning, we went ahead and headed to Old Town to window shop and she fell asleep in the stroller for 1.5 hours! That is longer than her normal naps! We got to spend great time with our old friends Jo and Everly on Friday evening and Saturday morning, hit up all my favorite shops on Saturday morning and then went to a lovely baby shower to celebrate my old friend Sarah and the upcoming birth of her son! It made me really excited to know that little trips like this can be fun. What will the future hold? Of course I couldn't find my camera so there are NO pictures, just memories. But here are a few pictures of lately to fill in the words :)
|I tried to capture a picture of Livi and our Sense Of Place treasures to show to Grace, because that store is special to us :)|
|We found out Olivia likes to ride her Zebra much more if the music is NOT playing!|
|If you didn't think she looked like Daddy before, is there any denying it now???|
|Big girl using a fork! Watch the video below-it's priceless.|
|more boat progress! Jeff put 2 sides on! I have to admit it makes my stomach hurt sometimes, not knowing how it will pan out. Look at how that wood has to bend! And all those clamps to hold it on! YIKES!|
|My Hubby is pretty amazing :)|
Friday, February 15, 2013
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Livi is just a blast lately. I love taking her picture to capture her sweet spirit and joyful personality. Check out her new laugh/squeal!
|while Jeff saves up money and time to work on his REAL boat, he is building a model boat!|
|Livi loves taking things out of hte fridge door and setting them in the fridge :)|
|Look at her walking in her stylish jeggings! She loves to walk like this now and only a week or so ago she had no interest!|
|uh oh. first taste of a thin mint!|
|playing catch with Grandma!|
|what do you think? does she look like me? I honestly can't tell!|